How far in advance should we select our officiant?
As soon as possible! I am honored to be a very busy officiant, and am often booked more than a year in advance. However, even if your ceremony is next week, send me a note anyway! I am sometimes available for spur of the moment ceremonies!
Where do you work?
I am based in Central Massachusetts, but do travel. Contact me for details.
Do you perform same-sex weddings?
Absolutely, and with Joy! I am proud to live in a state that honors equality.
How long is the ceremony?
That depends on what we include. I find that most custom ceremonies run about 20-22 minutes. This is long enough to be personal and meaningful, yet short enough to hold everyone’s attention. Elopement ceremonies are very short–about 5 minutes!
Can we write our own vows?
Please do. Your own words to each other are far more powerful and binding than anything I could suggest for you. If you’re not sure where to begin, I can provide sample vows to get you started.
How will you dress for the ceremony?
For all ceremonies I wear a full suit of armor. (Kidding!) Generally, I will wear a black dress, or some other appropriate outfit. However, did you want me to wear something specific? A costume? I’m in!!
Should we invite you to the rehearsal dinner or reception?
I understand that traditional etiquette dictates that the Celebrant is invited to the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception. However, this is not my preference or expectation. My job is to ensure that you have a beautiful, joy-filled ceremony, and then I will leave you to celebrate with your family and friends.
Can we have a chuppah? Do a sand ceremony? A handfasting? Broom jumping?
Yup. Your ceremony is YOURS. This is the best part of creating your own! You can include any and all rituals, readings, poetry, music, or costumes that you would like! If I’ve never heard of it, I’ll research it, and figure out how to make it fit! We are only limited by your imaginations (and maybe a venue restriction…you should check)
Do you need to be at our rehearsal?
I often perform several weddings each weekend, and this almost always precludes my participation in rehearsals, especially Friday evenings. A rehearsal is included in my Custom Ceremony package, based on my availability. A rehearsal can be added to the Standard Ceremony package for $200.00
What is your favorite ice cream?
Thanks for asking. Ben & Jerry’s Phish Food—is there anything better?